Friday, September 12, 2008

sweetie, honey, my love

France, night

There are a lot of things I love about USA (Bush is not one of them) and of Italy. There are some I really don't tolerate. This way that Americans have of calling everyone sweetie, honey or my love is something I really hate. It is so impersonal. I can be the sweetie of multiple people and the same people can call sweetie a lot of other ones. What's the point!

I have a name and if you want to call me with a nickname, which is fine with me, chose something personal, something that is just mine, just for me. It is like in Italy with the word "amore". People call amore their partner, lover, kid(s), everyone in the family, sometimes best friends. So, if you have a dinner let's say with your family and you call someone amore, how can people know to whom do you actually address your sentence?

I like nicknames. I use them with the closest people of my life. But I have a personal, specific nickname for each of them. It has a meaning to me and it refers only to each of them. It can simply be their name shortened or it can be related to someone characteristic. But please, don't call me amore, sweetie, honey, my love. Why is it so difficult to understand that if you call multiple people "amore" then the word "amore" loses a lot of its meaning? it doesn't make you feel special anymore, or at least, it wouldn't make me feel special anymore.


Anonymous said...

I've never thought about it before because we're so used to it, it's quite normal around here, but now that you've mentioned it...

I guess Americans got that from the Brits. I've never been called sweetheart or love as much as when living in London. It can be quite awkward if you're not used to it, I agree.

Btw, thanks for the comment on my post. Haven’t been to Ireland yet, but I do happen to know a few Irish and I’m with you on that. Oh, I simply loved your blog!

fromtheworld said...

Really? does it happen also in the UK? I have been sharing an apartment with a British guy in Amsterdam and I never heard him using these nouns, neither his girlfriend or friends, so I thought it was typical of USA. Happy you stop by on my blog!

Anonymous said...

Yeah, so typical! Consider yourself lucky (since you hate it) if they don't use such word when referring to you, but ask them.

I'm used to being called those things here, but while in England even I noticed how excessive it sounded... I don't mind it, really, but they sure seemed to love calling me by such expressions.

fromtheworld said...

In my case, there are only two people who almost always call me sweetie. And from them, I don't like it, but I am also not so disturbed by that. All the others who tried to call me that way (or similar) they probably just got scared by the way I looked at them in response :-)